Soloists work like golfers play. It’s a solo effort. Even when they work on a team, there is a desire to withdraw and spend some time alone with the project as the presence of others can be too much.
- I tend to want to spend time independently, thinking about a situation and feeling my way to an inner understanding of it.
- I may be perceived as withdrawn, not including others or even as aloof.
- I am not withdrawing to be a wallflower or to disengage, but things need to resonate with my own internal structures for me to get on board and come into the group.
- I like to take my time. Sometimes, I may over-delegate in my desire to be a little bit removed.
- I can often more easily take the role of “devil’s advocate.”
Each of the Soloists withdraw for different reasons. Here are some type distinctions:
- Type 5s withdraw to protect themselves from the demands of people, from the perceived excesses in the external world and to manage a sense of overwhelm if things feel too intense and potentially draining of my energy.
- Type 4s withdraw to protect their sensitive emotions and to live in their imaginary world, which serves to amplify and intensify their emotions.
- Type 9 withdraws from conflict and discomfort to protect their own sense of inner calm and peace.
Thanks to Belinda Gore for teaching this valuable insight.