The Enneagram for Couples

It’s no secret that effective communication is essential to the health of your relationship.

This isn’t therapy. Rather, it’s an opportunity for the two of you to come in together and learn how your type patterns show up in your significant relationships.

Your Enneagram lens impacts how you communicate, engage in conflict and even hear how the other gives you feedback.

My goal is to highlight patterns that may be hard for you to see and then teach you simple ways to speak so your partner can hear you and listen so you can hear your partner.

Yet, it’s more than just speaking and listening. It’s learning to tune into something beyond what’s being said.

Couples experience significant “aha’s” in our sessions. It works like this:


Each person will do a private Enneagram typing interview which is 90 minutes. In the session,  I’ll invite you into some gentle, but reflective self-inquiry for 50 minutes. I’ll be listening carefully for what goes on in your HEAD, HEART AND BODY.

After the interview, we’ll spend time in conversation unpacking your Enneagram style and how it impacts your relationships. You will leave with Awareness Practices which help you get to know yourself based on your Enneagram style.

“The quality of our relationships determines the quality of our lives.”
• Esther Perel


Leslie will sit with each of you for an hour. You will  share your story of how you communicate and how you hear your partner. What trips you up? What are your Groundhog Day conversations that drive you crazy because they’re so familiar and seem to have no end?

When have the two of you come alive and connected?

Once you share your story, you will learn Enneagram insights about communication and conflict that will have you nodding your head as you see how your type has showed up in your communication with your partner.

You will receive take home practices for your own self-observation.


Now, it’s time to bring your new insights to 2-90 minute sessions of conscious communication with your partner. This part requires intention, a spirit of curiosity and openness. 

This is a time for slowing down.

You will learn to listen with your HEAD, HEART AND BODY. You listen not only to what your partner is trying to say, but also for what’s happening underneath.

In each session, you’ll have time to ask questions, review your practices, share your insights.

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