Your Enneagram Type’s Core Idealization (It’s about survival)
What does your Enneagram type idealize? This is a simple and insightful practices for self-observation. For instance, the Seven's idealization is, "I'm ok." This need to be okay, can extend to others who are important to the Seven. When Sevens are caught in this...
The Enneagram of Harmony: Reconciling Opposites
We all wrestle with contradictory voices and inner conflict. Nobody is all one thing. We are made of polarities. Selfish/giving, kind/mean, strong/tender......the list is endless. Which voices do we listen to? Which do we ignore or shame or stuff away? And why can...
Enneagram Types 1/4/7: The Idealists
Imagine you're a 4 and you tend to get swept up by strong feelings...would "growth" mean thinking on the bright side the way a 7 does? Or if you're a 7, should you dive into deep feelings of longing the way a 4 does in order to see what more essential things may be...
From the blog, On Being: "I saw a dear friend a few days ago. I stopped by to ask her how she was doing, how her family was. She looked up, voice lowered, and just whimpered: “I’m so busy… I am so busy… have so much going on.” Almost immediately after, I ran into...
9 Stages of Spiritual Transformation
“The following is a 9-stage journey of spiritual development as taught by Franciscan Friar Richard Rohr. As Richard Rohr says, ‘This isn’t something that you work on, it’s something that works on you.’ 1. My Body Is Who I am: Focus is on security and safety; power and...
The Pause in Relationship
“Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” Viktor E. Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning The space between stimulus and response is "The Pause". Below are some...
Head Types: How Do Your Co-Workers See You?
Knowing your Enneagram style's patterns gives a glimpse in what others see, but may not be saying. Sometimes, it's hard for people to tell us the hard stuff. Or, if they do, it's hard to be receptive to what they are saying. Below, I list common feedback I hear from...
Heart Types: How Do Your Co-Workers See You?
Knowing your Enneagram patterns gives a glimpse into what others see, but may not be saying. by Leslie Hershberger Sometimes, it's hard for people to tell us the hard stuff. Or, if they do, it's hard to be receptive to what they are saying. Below, I list common...
Embrace Your Inner Contradictions
A love letter to all of you who embark upon the inner work of awareness and excavation of your own unique soul. (Be sure to read it with an Irish accent as it is from beloved teacher, John O’Donohue:) “We should allow the different sides of what is contradictory...
Body Types: How do your co-workers see you?
Knowing your Enneagram patterns gives a glimpse in what others see, but may not be saying. Sometimes, it’s hard for people to tell us the hard stuff. Or, if they do, it’s hard to be receptive to what they are saying. Below, I list common feedback I hear from people...