How do 4s, 5s and 9s like to work?
Soloists work like golfers play. It's a solo effort. Even when they work on a team, there is a desire to withdraw and spend some time alone with the project as the presence of others can be too much. I tend to want to spend time independently, thinking about a...
How do 1s, 2s and 6s like to work?
These are the Cooperators. When working on a project, it's kind of like baseball (you have your own position, you know the rules and there are referees) Dutiful: there are structures and ways of doing things Want to take time to find out who the team is, understand...
How Do 3s, 7s and 8s Like to Work?
These are the Initiators. When working on a project, it's kind of like street basketball. Jump in and move fast. Like to get the ball rolling and learn as they go along. They prefer action, diving in, getting engaged, getting involved, but want to cut through...
Your Enneagram Type’s Core Idealization (It’s about survival)
What does your Enneagram type idealize? This is a simple and insightful practices for self-observation. For instance, the Seven's idealization is, "I'm ok." This need to be okay, can extend to others who are important to the Seven. When Sevens are caught in this...
The Enneagram of Harmony: Reconciling Opposites
We all wrestle with contradictory voices and inner conflict. Nobody is all one thing. We are made of polarities. Selfish/giving, kind/mean, strong/tender......the list is endless. Which voices do we listen to? Which do we ignore or shame or stuff away? And why can...
Enneagram Types 1/4/7: The Idealists
Imagine you're a 4 and you tend to get swept up by strong feelings...would "growth" mean thinking on the bright side the way a 7 does? Or if you're a 7, should you dive into deep feelings of longing the way a 4 does in order to see what more essential things may be...
From the blog, On Being: "I saw a dear friend a few days ago. I stopped by to ask her how she was doing, how her family was. She looked up, voice lowered, and just whimpered: “I’m so busy… I am so busy… have so much going on.” Almost immediately after, I ran into...
9 Stages of Spiritual Transformation
“The following is a 9-stage journey of spiritual development as taught by Franciscan Friar Richard Rohr. As Richard Rohr says, ‘This isn’t something that you work on, it’s something that works on you.’ 1. My Body Is Who I am: Focus is on security and safety; power and...
The Pause in Relationship
“Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” Viktor E. Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning The space between stimulus and response is "The Pause". Below are some...
Head Types: How Do Your Co-Workers See You?
Knowing your Enneagram style's patterns gives a glimpse in what others see, but may not be saying. Sometimes, it's hard for people to tell us the hard stuff. Or, if they do, it's hard to be receptive to what they are saying. Below, I list common feedback I hear from...